Wednesday, November 13, 2013

Should I, Shouldn't I?



I'm a very decisive person.  You may have gathered that from reading the blog for a while.
However sometimes I just can't figure out what to do about a situation.

Living alone doesn't afford one the opportunity to turn to a partner and say, "What should I do?"
Sometimes, for me, another person's perception helps to clarify my quandary and lead to a decision.

Does that happen to you?

I'm in a place like that today.  Actually I've been going through it for a couple of days.  Not typical for me.  In fact, I've just about driven myself crazy trying to come to a decision, even if it isn't the right one.

Often I'll make a list of the pros and cons.  I did that.  They were even.  Oy vey.
So, here I sit, still undecided about what to do.

It is a VERY uncomfortable position for me.

How do you decide something when you can't make up your mind?

I need help!
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18 comments:

jennifer rose said...

Flip a coin.

Rick said...

I have the same problem but can't decide what to do about it?

Charles said...

I try to go someplace quiet by myself without any distractions...let my mind clear itself...takes a while sometimes but the right answer always comes...and it will surprise you when you realize that you actually knew it all along!

Babs said...

Jennifer, GREAT advice. After you've analyzed and over analyzed it's best to just leave it to fate!

Babs said...

Rick, that gave me a chuckle!

Babs said...

Charles, that usually works for me!
Amazingly, writing this post and a phone call or two or three has spurred me on to make a decision!

lasvegasundressed said...

Don't over analyze. Just go with your gut feeling......

Babs said...

Thanks "lasvegasundressed". I AM!
And, I love your moniker!.......Thanks for commenting.

Dean Wylo said...

When I can't decide on something I write a word that defines an answer (i.e. "Yes" or "No", "Do" or Don't", etc.) on two pieces of paper the same size. I fold them the same way. I put them in my cupped hands and shake them so I don't know which is which. Then I put one in each cupped hand and put them out in front of me.

Which hand feels the lightest? Which is slightly higher than the other?

That is my answer. And it's usually a very good one.

Barbara

Babs said...

What a GREAT idea! Thanks, I'll try that next time........

sparks_mex said...

When in doubt I always choose the shrimp.

My life doesn't get more complicated than that

Babs said...

Sparks, you ARE a lucky man. As a matter of fact, when I get over in your "neck of the woods", SHRIMP is always what I get!
Can't wait til January........

gringosuelto said...

You probably shouldn't unless you think you'll regret not doing it later. In which case you should, but then you can't really rush into it either. I'd say consider it carefully, and then do your best to postpone the decision.

I hope that helps.

Saludos,

Kim G
Boston, MA
Where sometimes we don't know either.

Babs said...

Kim, right after I finished the blog post, the dam broke and I made the decision to "should". Thankfully.
I would have regretted had I not...

George Puckett said...

Perhaps I shouldn't make a comment now that you have made a decision. However since you will be in that position many times in the course of the day here it is.
Davy Crockett said, "Be sure you're right then move ahead."
But then there was that incident at the Alamo.

Unknown said...

Ha, George! Your comment made my day.

Gin said...

How funny, everyone had a opinion when they didn't know what the dilemma was. My thought is, you seem to be a take charge type of gal with no regrets. Glad you worked it out.

Bonnie Garrison said...

What are the factors that determine your choice? For instance, consider a potential move and several desirable locations. What factors about a new environment are most important to you? Local environment, cost, proximity to health care or a major airport? Determine five or six, then give each a weight (good weather 20pts, cost 15 pts) to equal 100. Then rank each of those possibilities to see which potential new home is most likely to suit you. This method makes you feel very scientific and reasonable, though you should also leave some points for the unintended/unknowable.