I have met many people who started out in little villages in various states such as Hidalgo, which is between here and Mexico City, or Chiapas, which is down near Guatemala, among many other places.
Many lived in villages where nary another ex-pat lived. For a while, they say, it was fine. But then, the need for social interaction came to the forefront along with loneliness.
Those people that I have heard that from have ended up moving to places such as Guadalajara or San Christobal, Merida, Veracruz and sometimes San Miguel de Allende.
The need for interacting with people that have some understanding of our backgrounds seems to be an innate need. In addition, activities such as sports, musical concerts, jazz, blues, and movies are things people want to continue to experience. Just to name a few.
Volunteering seems to be important if one was not able to participate in that in their previous life or there is just a need to give back in some form or fashion.
I don't mean by any means that you can't do these things in villages with no other ex-pats, but, it is facilitated more when such activities have already been established.
There are many opportunities in San Miguel, for example, to take classes or go to lectures on a myriad of subjects. All things to keep the brain active and the spirit socially alive.
In fact, at times, looking at the Atencion newspaper here in San Miguel, it is overwhelming how much there is going on if one were to want to participate in everything. I sincerely doubt it would be possible!
I highly suggest, if you haven't already done so, to plan trips to check places out. Also, check them out at different times of the year. This year I visited a city that I had heard so much about and often wondered if I would want to transplant there.
Once I visited I realized not in a million years for me because of the amount of traffic and the heat.
Glad I didn't pick it, sight unseen as some do!
Traveling in Mexico by bus or inter country airlines is very easy. The bus service is highly scheduled - especially the executive bus lines such as Primera Plus, ETN, Uno and many, many more.
Don't think Greyhound - think flying first class.
Reclining seats, TVs, a snack and leg rests. Yup that and sometimes sleeping masks, a lightweight blanket and bottled water. All on the buses! The costs are extremely reasonable.
Once you have your immigrante or permanent visa along with an Inapam card, which can be applied for by those over 60, the bus fares are at a 50% discount. With discount, a bus from San Miguel to Mexico City is about $17USD - a 3 1/2 hour ride on an executive bus!
There have been a plethora of new airlines that have started up in the last six years or so. Interjet is magnificent and extremely reasonable. They now have routes into the USA as well. Think jet service in the USA 40 years ago. Brand new equipment. Spotless aircraft and well groomed and pleasant flight attendants. Service on time and so far no hassles on luggage check in.
Some of those airlines besides Interjet are Volaris and Aviacsa. Use your computer to find out more by just putting "Mexican air service" in your Search Engine and then checking out their routes. The airfares on these airlines is far less then the international carriers in most instances.
Another way to travel in country is with local tour groups who plan tours that the people in their area wish to go on. In San Miguel there are a few. One that stands out is Los Vagabundos, both because of their itineraries and the leader of the company. I have traveled with them at least 8 or 9 times and always been pleasantly entertained.
Hopefully this information helps you to realize that where you choose does have an impact. I also hope it helps you to realize that you won't stagnate if you choose the place that fits your desires and requirements.
After all, this is the next season of your life - the golden time for all those things you never had time to do because of your previous life of working and/or raising a family.