Monday, December 07, 2009

The "Dating" Game!

I debated whether to write this post or not, but then I said, "What the heck? It's among friends". So here it is.........

It started about a year ago. I didn't approach it as a game, but as another of life's adventures. I decided, after walking through the dark tunnel of grief, that it was time to find the right person to share the rest of my life with.......

So, I joined E-Harmony. So many men, so little time. I was surprised and overwhelmed by how many men in my age range were looking for someone, hopefully to share their life with also. It didn't turn out that way in all instances. But, there is always the "delete" button. I learned to use it judiciously when the karma or qualities weren't right.

I did meet two very different men - one from Alaska and the Sea of Cortez - another from Vancouver. Those didn't work out for various reasons. In the meantime, I met delightfully interesting people who I learned a lot from and enjoyed corresponding with - even at long distances. One man, an ex-pat was in China. Talk about geographically impossible! But, all in all it has been a fascinating experience.
One that I would encourage anyone seeking a partner to try. There are many sites. I would not go back on E-Harmony or Mexican Cupid. I did find Senior People Meet to be the most appropriate for me.

Of course common sense should prevail. In the case of those of you still in the USA, obviously it would be much easier to meet people in your geographic area. Not the case for me.

However, I have met someone. I consider myself now to be "in a relationship". And, if and when the time comes, I'll tell you more. Right now I just want to bask in the joy and delight of it all. It has been going on for a while.

I'd like to offer this bit that someone sent to me and I love. "LIFE is short. BREAK the rules. FORGIVE quickly. KISS slowly. LOVE truly. LAUGH uncontrollably. And NEVER regret anything that made you smile!"

11 comments:

Brenda said...

Have fun, I hope it works out well this time round; but regardless enjoy it.

Life's a Beach! said...

I love that quote! I've been married forever, but two friends have both found their loves online. One is now married and has a new lease on life! The internet is wonderful, isn't it!

Leah Flinn said...

Well said, and congratulations!

Nancy said...

Paul and I have had 12 happy years together so far, and we met online. I think that the time spent emailing and calling before even meeting was an important way to really get to know each other.

Good luck to you, I mean it!

Steve Cotton said...

Thanks for the quote. I am tucking it under the front seat of my roller coaster car

Chrissy y Keith said...

Good for you!

Mic said...

Good for you, Babs, you should have someone special. It will be a very lucky man who gets to share your life & times.

Debra said...

Hi Babs,

I gather that you found this person - "off line" and in person?

Yes?

Joy be with you!!

Arizona Deb

Kay Cox said...

Love the quote...hope you are wearing your seat belt this time.

Calypso said...

There are a lot of ways to skin a cat (where does that saying come from?)

In any case, there are success stories and failures for all the ways to meet a mate.

In all cases taking it slow and being real about your needs and who you and the other person truly are is very important to having success.

In this case I am happy for the other person because they are darn lucky ;-)

Julia said...

Good for you so glad your enjoying a relationship again. Looking forward to your big reveal, that is if you ever do reveal.
Finding someone who you can trust and conect with is very special, I am so glad it happened to you.

Julia