Comments on babsblog: Jennifer's Altar

Cheryl and Wayne - Thank you so much for letting m...

2009-11-04T13:57:16.890-06:00

Cheryl and Wayne - Thank you so much for letting me know that the blog touched you.
Calypso - your friendship and empathy always touch my heart. We are a "brotherhood of friends", we bloggers. It is awesome to me how we care for each other having, in most instances, never met.
Many times I said that very phrase, "God gives you no more then you can handle". But he did many times and somehow the spirit survives and returns. It is amazing.

Babs - I imagine thoughts of whether to create an ...

2009-11-04T06:35:05.392-06:00

Babs - I imagine thoughts of whether to create an altar or not are rather like trying to get comfortable in a chair, squirming every which way and never finding a comfortable position.

While only being able to imagine the pain, I have a good sense for it thinking about how I might be affected by the loss of my son.

There is a promise in what I believe that says we will never have to endure more than that which we can handle - at times when those promised limits are stretched, I have to wonder about the scale of pain.

I think the fact that we have an immense capacity to care is a good thing and I am honored to be able to know you well enough to to be able to share some of your pain.

Beautiful post.

2009-11-03T22:25:54.680-06:00

Beautiful post.

I just started reading your blog recently, and hav...

2009-11-03T19:08:08.974-06:00

I just started reading your blog recently, and have really enjoyed it.

I was so moved by your post about your daughter, Jennifer. I cannot imagine ever losing my own daughter.

I think that the alters are wonderful ways to feel closer to those who have passed, but I can see how it would be a way to tear your heart open again with those awful wounds. I think you were wise to not build another one this year. I hope that you will continue to mend the wounds in your heart and it sounds like you are doing a good job of that. More peace in the future to you.

I'm glad all of you got something for my reminisci...

2009-11-03T09:42:16.831-06:00

I'm glad all of you got something for my reminiscing about my daughter. It is very personal and I did debate about writing this post.

Felipe, there was a sense of peace after completing the altar and sitting there looking at it. The installation of it was traumatic.

I am on the "road to recovery" and just didn't want to open the lid of the basket to look at all those things this year again. Maybe I'm being a little selfish in not wanting to be sad.......

Barbara, beautiful post. The Day of the Dead reall...

2009-11-03T08:31:44.526-06:00

Barbara, beautiful post. The Day of the Dead really brings our loved ones back if only in our thoughts.

You say the altar in the past turned out to be ver...

2009-11-03T07:18:37.729-06:00

You say the altar in the past turned out to be very peaceful for you, so I do not quite understand why you did not do it this year.

Barbara, thank you for sharing your story about y...

2009-11-02T21:53:19.895-06:00

Barbara, thank you for sharing your story about your beautiful daughter Jennifer. I am sure it was hard for you and I really admire you for doing it and glad that it brought you some peace. I think you are a special person and have a beautiful spirt and it shows both in and out.

Take care!

Pat from Houston

Just think of how awful it would be if we did not ...

2009-11-02T16:48:07.619-06:00

Just think of how awful it would be if we did not remember the impact people, especially close people and family have on our lives.....
Glad you decided to remember and sharing!

Tina, Jan and Ron - I'm happy that my story provid...

2009-11-02T14:48:32.494-06:00

Tina, Jan and Ron - I'm happy that my story provides some joy and consolation to those who have known great friends, loving family and the difficulty of grief. It either makes you stronger or takes you down.......or both. First it takes you down and then makes you stronger.
BUT, you never forget.

Thanks for the story. Kathy and I will be in the ...

2009-11-02T13:39:34.439-06:00

Thanks for the story.

Kathy and I will be in the town where our son grew up on the day that marks ten years since he died, Dec. 2.

Ron

thanks for the beautiful post Barb. I have been t...

2009-11-02T13:12:32.742-06:00

thanks for the beautiful post Barb. I have been through a similar process this year thinking of all of the dear people that have passed though my life. I hope you have a wonderful day. I know that you have many, many friends that love you.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts about your dau...

2009-11-02T10:55:36.297-06:00

Thank you for sharing your thoughts about your daughter Jennifer. Even though I was silently lurking, I've read all of your past posts about her, and Flash too.

I specifically remember your touching story about the butterfly flowers in your garden.

I admire you so much for your strength and ability to "process" the unthinkable--the loss of your child--and still revel in the beauty and joy of your life.

You show there really is healing and a way to move forward, even in the face of overwhelming loss.

So my "haven't met you in person yet, but looking forward to it" friend--you are an inspiration, a source of strength, and yes, some laughs along the way too!

Jennifer is so blessed to have you as her mother.

Peace.